The women next to me in line said to her friend, "I am so tired of people telling me what I should do. I just want to yell, STOP SHOULDING ON ME!"

I could not help but smile a bit. Not at her annoyance and frustration, but at the phrase, 'stop shoulding on me.' I thought, "What a great expression."  The expression stayed with me for days. I think it resonated because I see so many of us (me too) put ourselves through all kind of agony over what we SHOULD do versus what we really want to do.

I wonder, what is causing us more conflict, the things other people tell us we should do or the 'shoulding' that we do to ourselves?

Do you do things because you SHOULD do them or because you WANT to do them? How many times have you said something like this?

Danielle left the house with just five minutes to spare. It would have been better if she had left ten or fifteen minutes early because she wanted to stop and buy a cup of coffee. She decided that she could probably get in and out of the coffee house within seven minutes and that being just two minutes late to work was perfectly acceptable. Then Danielle drove to the coffee house.